Sometimes, we as human beings, get into an emotional rut. We tell ourselves that we must stay where we are because of fear of the unknown. I am not talking about the positive emotions of love or happiness, but of the negative ones named hate, anger, and fear. These are the ones that are easier for us to feel and acknowledge. Many of us have been molded into thinking that the negative emotions are more real than the positive. Even the most well meaning parents throw a bunch of “you cant’s” at their children, which causes them to believe “I can’t” when they become adults. These thoughts are counter productive to our well being and ability to bring abundance into our lives. There are ways to combat the onslaught of negative thought, however. That does not mean that you are damned if you indulge in even one negative thought against yourself.
I like to think of our brain as a finely tuned computer, and our thoughts are the files that we work on. We either save these ideals on the desk top in a temporary fashion or on the hard drive for permanent storage. You should only save those thoughts that are uplifting and empowering to the hard drive. If you were to save a degrading thought to a permanent area in your brain, than it would be very hard to get rid of in the long run. That is why they invented psychologists, of course, but you can save yourself some hassle. Negative thoughts are kind of like a virus that we allow into our heads. They do nothing but impede us on our path to enlightenment or even our everyday life. For example, if you are on your way to a job interview, and you really want the job. It is everything that you have ever dreamed of doing, but on the way to the interview, you start to think that you will never get this job. You tell yourself that they will hate you or you are not qualified enough. These thoughts start to build in your head creating self-hate, resentment toward yourself, and a sense of fear that you just aren’t good enough.
These thoughts create viral files that will, if left to their own devices, cause you to fail in your endeavor. The brain virus makes sure that it is proven right every time. Then again, so are the thoughts that make you feel good. Files of viral emotional clutter are nothing more than that…Clutter.
Negative emotions need to be recognized and gently placed into the trash bin in our computer brains, and then securely deleted. When this virus is overtaking your mind and causing a lot of confusion, remember to BREATHE! Focus solely on the breath, and then come back to these thoughts of negativity and realize what they really are…nothing. Throw them gently away, and never beat yourself up about them. Ever! That just causes the cycle of doubt to continue.
It is also important to only allow people in your life that are not going to constantly make sure that you are reminded of a moment when you were simply not being your normal wonderful self. You do not need these people in your life, and that part was dealt with in the last blog. They both tie into each other, because the people you chose to surround yourself with are a reflection of what you perceive as yourself and what you deserve. I cannot stress this enough. I have seen a lot of individuals lately who are wonderful and just can’t see it. Remember, you have to love yourself before you can love anyone else. You also have to love yourself before anything great can come into your life.